Democracy is a big human experiment in organized power-sharing. In political literature, democracy is both an ideology and a structure. In politically abstract terms, dictatorship is democracy’s opposite.
Authoritarianism is a big human experiment in organized power-stealing and hoarding. In political literature, authoritarianism is both an ideology and a structure. In politically abstract terms, “personal liberty” is authoritarianism’s opposite.
Everyday authoritarianism, however, is different than an abstract political theory. It exists in human relations and everyday practices: you can see authoritarianism in everyday interactions and mundane tasks. Living everyday authoritarianism means stealing power from other humans, on a relational level, and hoarding it. Its opposite is everyday democracy.
- When your professional processes are not transparent, you steal power I use to understand fully.
- When you give me inaccurate information, intentionally, you steal power I use to make sound decisions.
- When you take my time or expect me to use it for your purposes, you steal my power to spend it on what my family needs.
- When you purposely exclude, you steal power I use to participate.
- When you refuse acknowledgement, you steal power I use to connect.
- When your cynicism leads, you steal my power to be openly optimistic.
- When your doubt blindly stands in front of my credibility, you steal my power to access those benefits
- When you withhold emotion, you steal power I use to engage.
- When your fear is weaponized in my direction, you steal power I use to confidently move through the world.
- When you pretend to know what you don’t, you steal power I use to assess effectively.
- When you willfully ignore new information and rely on your own outdated assumptions, you steal my power to protect myself from old, poisonous ideas.
- When you block access to resources, you steal my power to feed my life.
- When you refuse to say my name, you steal my power to exist.
When you steal my power, you steal my forward momentum, and my power to progress. When you steal my power and hoard it, you systematically lock down my agency. When enough power is stolen and enough humans’ agency is locked down, everyday authoritarianism supports an authoritarian state, a political culture. Gramsci had it right: we do it to ourselves.
Living democratically every day means sharing power. Living a democratic ethic means moving through the world, authentically engaged, without knowing the outcome. To live democratically is to help create the conditions for the possibility of trust, of vulnerability, of creativity in everyone you meet. To share power on a relational level is to create the conditions for the possibility of unlocking everyone’s agency.
Living democratically means that all of us can make sound decisions, we can understand fully, we are able to spend our time on our purposes; we can participate, connect, live optimistically, move through the world with self-esteem; we are able to engage fully, effectively assess situations, live without fear of poisonous ideas. Living democratically means being able to confidently drive our forward momentum. It means being able to feed our lives. It means a just human existence. It means we all share “the right to pursue happiness.”
Democracy cannot be imposed. It cannot be elected. It cannot be bought. It cannot be attained through prayer. It must be lived in bodies, in relations, in all of us. Every single day.
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